What are you willing to suffer for?

what are you willing to suffer for?

A few weeks ago, I was reading an article that struck me in a way that has had me thinking about it on a regular basis lately. It was an inspirational piece encouraging people to follow their dreams and work to achieve them, but they added in something I had never thought of before.

In most readings, we see the usual question of “What do you want out of life?”

To which I can easily answer: I want to be successful, I want a family, I want to make a difference, I want another degree. Heck, I want to win the lottery and I want to meet Usher too, but that’s a whole different post for a different day.

Instead, this article asked “What are you willing to suffer for to achieve?”

Of course they don’t mean real awful torture suffering, but they mean- What are you willing to work hard for and worth through the trenches of to achieve?

This made me sit down and really think about the things I want out of life and what I am actively doing to work toward those things.

What am I willing to work hard for and suffer for?

For me, this means my list dwindles a little bit. I’m definitely not willing to suffer to meet Usher or win the lottery, those things are wants but definitely not things I want to put my energy towards, I’ve got other things to think about!

What I am willing to suffer for and work for is my education and my future.

it's going to be worth it

I will work, and work hard for a graduate degree. I will work hard for a job that makes me feel successful, like my position with TFA. I will work hard to make myself the kind of woman that can handle children and a family someday. Don’t worry, not any time soon though.

In my journaling I’ve been able to expand upon these things and set into action a concrete and tangible plan for working toward the things that I am willing to work for. These things won’t just come easily, it will take conscious work toward them on a regular basis.

It seems like such a small thing, but to me it feels like a big step toward my future. One that starts today, right now, and has already been in place since my move to Chicago.

So let me pose these questions to you all-

What are you willing to suffer for?

What work are you doing now to work toward those goals? What do you need help or support with?

10 thoughts on “What are you willing to suffer for?

  1. Stephanie

    Moving to TX was not in my plan nor is it something I really wanted. Being away from friends and family was something I was willing to suffer through so that my husband was able to take on a career that he loves.

    1. Destiny Post author

      That’s so selfless of you! I hope that with time Texas will feel more like home and new friends will be found!

    1. Destiny Post author

      It’s such an important part of getting things done! For me it’s so helpful in keeping myself focused.

  2. alyssa

    The past two weeks have been bad weeks for my boyfriend and I. Our 1 year is on Halloween and the closer we get, the lazier he gets with our relationship. Less texts/calls, less hanging out, breaking plans, and so on. Last night we argued about it. I cried for way too long. This post was exactly what I needed this morning. I love him with every fiber of my being and I guess I forgot that sometimes you have to go through the really ugly times to pursue the really great ones. We just both need to work hard for that goal of a better US. Thank you. <3

    alyssa nicole @ sincerelyalaska.blogspot.com

    1. Destiny Post author

      I’m glad this post helped you. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been going through a rough time with your boyfriend. Although it is true that going through ugly times can get you through good ones, you have to look out for yourself too. If he’s not putting in effort in the relationship, it’s important to not cut yourself short. You are absolutely deserving of someone who will put forth effort to show you show much he cares. Don’t be the only one working for the relationship! Email me anytime you want someone to talk to!

    1. Destiny Post author

      “pray that lessons come easily, opportunities are shining, and hard work will be rewarded.” I feel like I should print that out and hang it in my house. Thank you for sharing!


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